ShiFt Happens
Nobody teaches you what to say when your kid lies, your coworker interrupts you, your partner gets defensive, or your friend crosses a line. I do. Every Sunday. Join 900+ people who are learning what to say.
You're Always Nagging Me (ShiFt Happens)
I flew home from a speaking gig in North Carolina this past week, sitting at my gate waiting to board, minding my own business, when I watched a marriage almost combust in real time. Mom had a kid in a stroller mid-meltdown and a toddler running laps around it like she was training for a marathon. She was wearing me out! Both of mom's hands were full. Not busy... super full. There is a difference and she was literally living it. Dad was standing right in front of the whole thing. He wasn't on...
Because I Said So (ShiFt Happens)
I'm writing this from an airport, on my way to North Carolina for a conference I'm speaking at, because of course I was up late last night packing like the trip snuck up on me instead of being on my calendar for a month. My son picked that exact moment, mid-scramble, half my brain on my slides and the other half looking for a charger, to bring up the virtual reality game he's been designing in his head for weeks. He needs a developer. He wants to know when we're finding one. Today would be...
I Interrupt My Husband at Every Drive-Thru (ShiFt Happens)
If you've ever been in the car with my family at a drive-thru, I owe you an apology - because I'm that person. My husband starts ordering: "Can I get a Number 3..." Before he even finishes the sentence, I'm already leaning over from the passenger seat and say, "No." He gives me the look. The one that says please stop doing this in public. The kids are in the back cracking up because they've watched this exact scene a hundred times. Yes, even on them. "Mom. Seriously?" Yes. Seriously. Because...
Nobody Asked, Karen (ShiFt Happens)
My friend was at her desk, minding her business, unwrapping a sandwich, when her coworker leaned over and said, "Oh, you're eating that for lunch?" Five words. That's all it took. My friend went full courtroom drama. Macros. Meal prep app screenshots. A gluten explanation nobody requested, delivered with the energy of someone defending a thesis. The coworker just nodded and walked away. She wasn't collecting data. She was being weird about a sandwich and my friend handed her a whole...
ShiFt Happens: The FBI is tired of people interrupting you
I was in a meeting, two sentences in, and someone jumped in to finish my point. Wrong. They finished it wrong. I smiled and said "actually" and then finished it myself, which is a level of composure that takes practice and also knowing what you're dealing with. Most people just talk louder or give up, neither of which works. Being interrupted is one of those things that feels small in the moment but will have you rehearsing a comeback in the shower for three days. You'll be in there with...
ShiFt Happens: "Prove You Love Me" Is Not a Repair Plan
I was watching a show recently where two couples were both trying to pull their relationships back from the edge at the same time. It was the same episode, same stakes, completely different approaches. The first couple sat down and the woman looked at her partner and said, "Here's what I need. I need you to come home when you say you will. I need you to stop making plans without telling me. And I need two weeks of that before we talk about what's next." It was hard but doable. She gave him...
ShiFt Happens: The Polite Way People Gaslight You
There’s a moment in some relationships that leaves you sitting there thinking, wait… did that really just happen? Maybe it’s later that night and you’re on the couch replaying something from earlier. At dinner, in front of a few friends, someone made a comment about you. It was the kind of remark that gets a quick laugh and then everyone suddenly becomes very interested in their food. Something like, “Well… we all know she can be a little dramatic.” You laugh too, mostly because that’s the...
ShiFt Happens: When Is It Enough?
This year was a good one. Not perfect, not easy. But good in ways that actually count. I reached a goal I’d been working toward - over 50 women inside my online women’s community. Conversations about real life, support, and women showing up as themselves - not who they think they should be. I said yes to more than 25 speaking engagements. Different rooms, different stories, same reminder every time - people want honesty more than hype. I became a Nea-Nea - that’s my grandma name. Still wild...
Shift happens. When love starts to feel like roommates with benefits.
They used to talk for hours. About stupid things, big dreams, the way they both hated that one actor everyone else loved. Back then, their nights felt endless - not because of time, but because curiosity made everything new. But years later, it was different.Dinner was quiet. The TV filled the space where laughter used to live. He’d ask, “How was your day?”She’d say, “Fine.”He’d nod, “Good.”Then they’d scroll, both pretending they were too tired to notice the silence. She could predict his...
Shift happens. Sometimes it’s apple-flavored.
There’s a day I still think about. She was maybe five - small enough to need help with everything, old enough to have big emotions.We were at the dinner table when she spilled her apple juice. Not the first time that week.And I was done - tired of cleaning, tired of adulting, tired of pretending patience was my spiritual gift.So I snapped. Loud voice. Sharp tone.The kind of reaction that fills a room faster than the spill ever could. She froze. Eyes wide, lip trembling.And then, in the...
Nobody teaches you what to say when your kid lies, your coworker interrupts you, your partner gets defensive, or your friend crosses a line. I do. Every Sunday. Join 900+ people who are learning what to say.