Book Preview: If conversations feel like a tug-of-war… read this


I’m really excited about this… and a little nervous, if I’m honest.

I’ve been working on a book about communication - but not the polished, textbook kind.

The real kind.

The kind where a normal conversation suddenly turns into a
tug-of-war… and now you’re defending, explaining, trying to be understood, or replaying it later thinking “why did I say that?” or
"what could I have said instead?"

That’s why I wrote this.

Most people aren’t necessarily "bad" at communicating. They’re often stuck pulling on a rope they don’t even realize they picked up.

And the truth is… pulling harder never fixes it.

At some point, you have to learn how to drop the rope.

My book is almost ready to come out, but I wanted to give you a peek first. So I’m letting you read the first chapter.

Read it before your next hard conversation.

You’ll start to notice when the rope shows up… and what it actually looks like to let go. You might even see yourself holding the rope.

If you read it and immediately think of someone else… send this email to them so they can access their own copy.

Communication Coach
Speaker & Author

PO Box 141, Aledo, TX 76008
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